The holidays are a time for relaxation and peace…well that’s what they tell us! Often times the pressure of playing hostess or the financial demands of the season put too much stress on us, and arguments are inevitable. So I’ve put together a Dos and Don’ts checklist for holiday harmony to help you navigate the chaos of the holidays with minimal fuss! Take a look:
Do: Involve your partner in your plans over the holidays. You may think he/she is happy enough just to be told where and when to be there, but coming across bossy and dismissive of his/her feelings is a sure fire way to get into an argument!
Don’t: Put too much pressure on yourself to create the perfect holiday. Try to relax and enjoy the time with your family. Inevitably things aren’t going to go entirely to plan but no on one will notice if all your lights aren’t perfectly synchronized!
Do: Make your holiday budget together as a couple. Deciding what you both think is important you spend money on is a much healthier attitude than one member of the relationship simply calling all the shots!
Don’t: Secretively buy things that you didn’t include on your initial agreed upon budget. Destroying receipts and hiding items under your bed will not necessarily conceal your spending and before you know it your peaceful household will began to rumble!
Do: Take time out from all the holiday chaos to check in with your spouse and catch up with everything going on with them. Communication is more important than ever at such a busy time of year in order to avoid any disgruntled feelings!
Don’t: Be unreasonable and demanding when it comes to gifts…subtle hints should suffice – nobody likes a spoiled brat!