ASK MARY: Love and Money- Is it Time to Get a Referee?
Posted by Mary Caraccioli | Filed under Lifestyle
Where can I find financial counseling to help me and my husband work through some of our financial problems and goals? -Atiya
Atiya, Thanks for the great question- you know disputes over money are the leading cause of divorce. Getting help to deal with money issues is a smart move. There are two ways you can go.
The first may surprise you. Many of us have emotional baggage that helps to form our money attitudes. Often if someone is very rigid in their money views- they have a strong emotional reason for it.
If this sounds like your situation- couples therapy might be a good option. Get to the heart of why you feel the way you do about money and why you make certain money decisions– and get to the bottom of why your partner feels the way they do.
From there you can form a mutual respect for each other’s limits- and hopefully make better decisions as a couple.
If your issues are more nuts and bolts about financial education, there are wonderful community resources to help families with financial education. Almost every county in the country has something.
To find one in your area you can start with the National Foundation for Credit Counseling website.
www.nfcc.org
I hope that helps. -Mary Caraccioli
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